I see what you mean with the terminals, I'll keep that in mind.
Uhhh... seems the darlington was tricker than I thought. I'm not exactly sure how it inverting the output can cause so much trouble.
But as you said, I don't really need them for this specific project, so I'll just remove them again. It's jut nice to know how they work for future builds. Guess I could just use transistors if the load on the board is too high.
You mean leading the GND to the terminal instead of just the board? Well that's no problem, I'll do that.
I'll bring the AMicro up to DS standard (everytime I rework one of them I get the urge to do the other, because I always improve something that carries over), remove the darlington and see where it all end up.
Realizing how tiny all this is, I'll have a fun day of soldering. Removing the darlington really just makes everything easier anyway.
*edit* So it's back to basic with all through hole nice spacing and thickness, all the other stuff I learned and everything neatly in 90º or 45º angles for my OCD

Also no need for the Arduino to be outside of the board, just makes it easier to damage.
I already changed it a bit since I uploaded the image tho, moved the LEDs one step to the left, they were a tiny bot too close to the SSRs.
I COULD make it smaller, by switching the 230v IN and output 5. But that would add to confusion when it's installed.
With all this work, I hope you won't tell me that it's just as easy to make a double-sided PCB xD
Thanks a lot Mark and everyone for all the help!
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